You should have a clear idea of what a fear based thought is now. Do your best to remove these thoughts from your mind in a continual process. In order to do this we use the tools of forgiveness and love. Love everyone without exception. This does not mean you allow yourself to be stepped on or disrespected by others. It simply means that our responses to what we perceive are driven solely by love without attempts to restrict its flow. How do we do this? Here are some guides:
My response to unloving thoughts:
- Recognize the thought as unloving
- Realize that I too have been unloving
- Forgive myself for my unlovingness
- Forgive the object of the unloving thought
- Let go of attachments and aversions to the object
- Enjoy freedom
This is a very simple method that may not be easy to employ in your daily life. Nevertheless, with practice, the benefits become abundantly apparent. A new sense of freedom will arise and replace the dread of pain generated by fear. We will no longer shy away from others and be willing to engage with them openly. We will finally see that our lives are intertwined and connect in ways we didn’t realize. Compassion for ourselves and others will fill our hearts. Events that once evoke a response of anger and frustration will now be met with a joyful smile and light hearted humor. We will finally realize our place in this world and no longer desire to control it. Restlessness will disappear and be replaced by a contented peaceful heart. Fear and doubt will leave us and we will face the world with a new found confidence.
Zen Momentum 